"The only calibration that counts is how much heart people invest, how much they ignore their fears of being hurt or caught out or humiliated. And the only thing people regret is that they didn’t live boldly enough, that they didn’t invest enough heart, didn’t love enough. Nothing else really counts at all."
Our lecturer for ‘Writing Ethnography’ used this quote to emphasise the difference between ‘telling’ and ‘showing’ in ethnographic writing. The more you want from your reader, the more you need to put in and involve them in your experiences.
"In the beginning, the doctor said, "Tell the real story. Write down your feelings because someday they might mean something to somebody. No matter how despairing you are, there are other people going through this who can’t express this, and if they should read it they would feel less alone." And so he gave me my little reason to go on; it shifted around, but that was always a driving, driving force."